Showing posts from July, 2017

{what happens when you decide to "creep"}

OK ... so i realize that i left you all kind of hanging for awhile here ... sorry, july totally got away on me!
after reading all of my crazy questions, rick was actually quite gracious, answering all of them and then some, while telling me that he considered me a "hoot" which i think was a compliment! his answers gave me a good bit of insight into who he was {or said he was} and answered the two most important ... he did love MY Jesus and my green bay packers ... so at least he was worth a second thought and further conversation!
since he said he hadn't found a local church to attend, i told him where i went to church and invited him to join me on sunday, and then i also texted him, since he provided me with his cell number.
i simply said, "hi rick" to which he replied "hi sheila" ... and when i asked how he knew it was me, he replied that he hadn't given his number to "that many girls" today ... oh, boy ... that money for comedian les…

{i found you}

.... it was 5 years ago today after finding and friend requesting rick on facebook, that i sent him a p.m. that simply said, "sorry, found you" :)
little did i know that he had horrible cell service at his house and his cell service doubled as his internet, so he didn't get my message right away ... which certainly led me to believe that maybe i made a mistake by creeping, but i was still holding out hope!
thankfully once he had a decent signal, he got my message and he did reply ... 
"thanks sheila, i didn't realize a facebook stalking would be so nice!" 

he then offered that i could ask any questions that i wanted to ... 

an offer i think he may have regretted soon after reading my next message!
i decided that i wasn't going to waste time and not ask the important questions, so i asked about his family relationships, prior marriage, relationship with his kids, did he drink, did he smoke, some other quite personal questions and the two "deal breaker que…

{getting to know you}

... the next day when i checked my computer, i had a notification that i had received some messages on the plenty of fish site ... 
eek ... that was kind of scary!
some were automatic delete ones, like dr. cheerio who i mentioned yesterday!
another, namely the guy from the gym doing the pushups went something like this ...
"hey, i saw that you checked out my profile but you didn't comment." 
um ... 
no ...
i didn't ...
was i supposed to?
well, i didn't actually say that, but i thought it! 
i'm not actually sure how i responded, but i must have said something because i remember that he then came back with ...
"do you know the problem is with runner girls?"
to which i remember i responded ...
"as my dad would say ... what did you do with the money your dad gave you for comedy lessons?"
which instantly sparked an "lol" back from gym guy ... and that was the beginning!
at that point, cautious me kicked back in and i decided to check him out on face…

{the beginning}

five years ... seems like yesterday, seems like forever!
five years ago tonight ... a new adventure began!
five years ago today i had taken all 3 girls to Bible camp for the week and when i got home i felt brave!
rickey and i had had a very good marriage.  
i had 2 amazing step-kids and he and i had 3 more girls that we had added to our wonderful family.
i knew that marriage could be good, very good, in fact and that i was only 45 years old and {hopefully} had lots of life left to live and i didn't think i wanted to live it alone!
i knew that in a week i was starting new job and thought it would be nice to have someone to share the excitement and nervousness and adventure with. and i honestly thought it would be nice to have someone to go out to pizza with once in awhile!
i knew that i missed companionship.
i knew, from conversations that rickey and i had had way back in the beginning our our relationship over 20 years earlier that he wouldn't want me to be alone and grieving forever.

my blogging certainly goes in spurts!
i'm so sorry! 
life has been been good, and busy and full of adventure ... 
just to recap the last month or so 
think of this as a photo flip book ... in words!
{in no particular order}
a quick weekend trip to georgia
trips to miller park to watch the brewers
mowing the lawn
rainy days
falling more in love with my husband
a bridal shower for my beautiful middle
2 of 3 girls headed to slovakia for a missions trip
working as a personal trainer again
mowing the lawn
seeking God's call/leading in our lives
deep conversations with rick
our "baby" turning 18
selling our rental property
buying a new to me jeep{!}
seeing God move {in HUGE ways}
celebrating my "other" daughter's wedding
enjoying visits from the kids
leaning on God's wisdom, not my own
seeking God
morning coffee on the screen porch
mowing the lawn
snuggling pets {lots of them}
seeing our marriage grow & glow
enjoying family
dreaming of things t…